Held by Her Collective

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A space for women and families to soften, regulate, and return to themselves.

Through bodywork, facial work and Human Design, this is where what you’ve been carrying can finally begin to release — physically, emotionally, and quietly.

Here, you don’t have to strive, fix, or perform.
You are met with steadiness, presence, and care.

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Services

Facials

When was the last time you looked in the mirror and felt like yourself?

The Sacred Face Ritual is a deeply nurturing lymphatic sculpting facial designed to de-puff, release tension, restore radiance, and calm the nervous system.

This isn’t about fixing your skin—it’s about reconnecting with yourself.

Through slow, intentional touch, you’re held in a space where you can soften, receive, and feel like yourself again.

You’ll leave feeling lifted, brighter, and deeply cared for.

This is more than a facial—it’s a return to yourself.

Lymphatic Massage

Lymphatic massage is a gentle, rhythmic treatment that supports the body’s detoxification and immune systems.

Using light, intentional touch, it encourages the movement of lymph — helping reduce swelling, inflammation, bloating, and stagnation.

Beyond the physical benefits, it deeply supports nervous system regulation.

It’s a space to soften, release, and restore your natural rhythm.

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Human Design Coaching for Parents

A practical and compassionate way to understand your child’s natural energy, needs, and communication style — so you can parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection.

Human Design is a system that combines elements of astrology, the I Ching, the chakra system, and modern science to map how a person is uniquely wired to make decisions, regulate their nervous system, and interact with the world.

When applied to parenting, it offers a framework for understanding your child’s temperament, sensitivities, and strengths — so you can support who they are, rather than trying to shape them into who they “should” be.

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This Mother’s Day, give yourself (or someone you love) more than a treatment… give the gift of being held.

The Sacred Face Ritual is a deeply restorative lymphatic sculpting facial designed to de-puff, soften, and reconnect you with yourself.

For the month of May, your experience is extended with a complimentary hair treatment and head massage—inviting you to drop even deeper into relaxation, care, and stillness.

A moment to stop. A moment to soften. A moment to feel like yourself again.

Bookings through website, links in bio or DM

GIFT VOUCHERS NOW AVAILABLE

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In a world that asks you to hold everything…this is where you get to be held.

— Kat Held by Her Collective 🌀

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Hi, I’m Kat
With over 25 years in the health and wellness industry, I’ve spent most of my life helping women feel better in their bodies.
But over time, I realised something…
It’s not just about skin. It’s not just about treatments.
And it’s definitely not about fixing what’s “wrong.”

It’s about creating a space where women can finally stop… soften…and reconnect with themselves.
Because the women I work with? They’re strong. Capable. Holding everything together.
But underneath that… they’re exhausted. Disconnected. And craving a moment where they don’t have to be everything for everyone.

That’s where I come in.
I’ve always been someone who feels deeply and notices the things others don’t—the tension in your body, the way you hold yourself, the energy you walk in with. 
As a fully qualified counsellor, I bring a grounded, safe presence to every treatment, holding space not just for your body, but for whatever you may be carrying emotionally too.

My work is deeply rooted in nervous system-based treatments— including lymphatic massage and sculpting facials— designed to help you let go, be held, and feel like yourself again.

No pressure. No overwhelm. No “one more thing to do.”
Just a space where you can breathe… and come back to yourself.

If you’ve been feeling like you can’t keep going at the pace you’re at…
This is your invitation to soften 🤍
I’m so glad you’re here.

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When was the last time you looked in the mirror and felt like yourself?
Not tired. Not puffy. Not disconnected.
Just… you.

The Sacred Face Ritual is a deeply nurturing lymphatic sculpting facial designed to:

* De-puff and sculpt the face
* Release tension in the jaw, face, neck, and shoulders
* Restore natural radiance
* Calm the nervous system
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But this isn’t about fixing your skin.
It’s about reconnecting with yourself.

Through slow, intentional touch, you’re held in a space where:

* You don’t have to think
* You don’t have to give
* You don’t have to hold anything

You get to soften. You get to receive. You get to feel like yourself again.
You’ll leave feeling lifted, brighter, and deeply cared for.

This isn’t just a facial. It’s a return to yourself.

#lymphaticmassage#balnarringmassage#morningtonpeninsulawellness#nervoussystemnourishment#lymphaticfacialsculpting

If your body feels heavy, tense, and like it can’t switch off… this is for you.

You don’t need another routine.
 You don’t need to push through.

You need a moment where your body can finally exhale.

The Deep Exhale is a deeply restorative lymphatic massage designed to:

* Release fluid retention and heaviness
* Reduce tension and stagnation
* Calm your nervous system
* Help you breathe deeply again

But more than that…

It’s a space where you don’t have to hold everything.

Where your body can soften. 
Where your mind can quiet. 
Where you can simply receive.

You’ll leave feeling lighter, clearer, and more like yourself again.

This isn’t just a massage. It’s the moment your body stops bracing.

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She who softens, exhales.
So much of what we carry isn’t always obvious.
It sits quietly in the body. In the shoulders. In the belly. And in the face.
The jaw that stays slightly clenched. The brow that never fully relaxes. The subtle tension behind the eyes.
Over time, the body adapts to holding.
It becomes normal to brace. To push through. To stay just slightly activated.
But the body doesn’t release through force.
It releases when it feels safe enough to soften.
This is the intention behind all of my work — whether through lymphatic bodywork, facial work, or stillness practices like yin.
Gentle, intentional support that helps the body shift out of holding and back into flow.
Because when the body softens, everything begins to move again.
Fluid. Breath. Energy.
And that’s where the exhale lives.

— Kat Held by Her Collective 🌀

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Why I begin every treatment with a tuning fork…

Before every treatment, I begin with a gentle sound ritual using a 128Hz tuning fork.

This simple step helps the body settle before we begin any hands-on work.

When the fork is activated and placed on specific points of the body, the vibration travels through the bones, fascia, and connective tissue, inviting the nervous system to soften and shift into a state of deep relaxation.

By calming the nervous system and softly stimulating these areas first, the body is better able to receive the treatment that follows.

When we feel safe and relaxed: • fascia softens • breathing deepens • lymph can flow more freely

It’s a small ritual, but one that creates a beautiful moment of stillness before the session begins.

People often say they can feel their whole body exhale when the vibration touches the skin.

This is your invitation to arrive, soften, and be held in the space before your treatment begins.

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Human Design for parents

Human Design is a framework that helps us understand how a person is naturally wired — how they process the world, make decisions, regulate their energy, and interact with others.

When applied to parenting, it offers a powerful lens for understanding your child’s unique temperament, sensitivities, and strengths.

Many parents come to this work feeling overwhelmed, confused, or worried that something isn’t quite working at home. They’ve tried different strategies, advice, and parenting approaches, yet still feel like they’re missing something.

Human Design can help bring clarity.

Instead of trying to fit your child into a single parenting method, it allows you to understand how they are designed to move through the world.

This can shift the way you respond to challenges like emotional meltdowns, sensitivity, sleep struggles, power struggles, and decision-making — helping you support your child in a way that feels more natural for both of you.

In my sessions, the focus isn’t on labelling your child or giving you rigid rules to follow.

It’s about helping you see your child more clearly, trust your instincts as a parent, and create a home environment where both you and your child can feel understood.

Clarity creates compassion. Understanding creates connection.

— Kat Held by Her Collective

Welcome to Held by Her Collective.

This space was created for women and families who are carrying a lot — physically, emotionally, and quietly.

Held by Her Collective brings together the work I’ve spent over two decades immersed in: counselling, Human Design guidance for parents, lymphatic bodywork, and yin yoga.

While these practices may look different on the surface, they share the same intention — supporting the nervous system, restoring natural rhythm, and creating space for the body and mind to release what they’ve been holding.

Here, the focus isn’t on fixing you.

It’s about understanding yourself more clearly, supporting your body gently, and reconnecting with the steadiness that’s already within you.

Through one-to-one counselling, Human Design sessions for parents, lymphatic massage, and restorative practices, I offer spaces where you can slow down, regulate, and feel supported.

This is work that meets you where you are.

No pressure. No performance. Just support.

— Kat

Most people think they need extreme cleanses to “detox.”

But your body already has a detox system.

It’s called your lymphatic system — and it works best with movement, hydration, breath, and safety.

Before you add more supplements, try supporting what your body is already designed to do.

Subtle shifts.�Consistent care.�Real flow.

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In my lymphatic sessions, I use the original Cecily Braden brushes.

They’re specifically designed for lymphatic stimulation — soft, intentional, and precise.

Unlike firm dry brushing, this method uses very light pressure to encourage lymph flow without activating the stress response.

Because the lymphatic system relies on relaxation to function optimally, gentleness matters.

When the body feels safe, it releases.

These brushes allow me to support detoxification, reduce swelling, and calm inflammation — while also regulating the nervous system.

Subtle work. Deep impact.
Because healing doesn’t need to be forceful. And plus they feel amazing!

Link in bio for bookings

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There is a grief that never leaves. Not loud. Not dramatic. Just quiet. Constant. Unseen.

It sits in the chest. It walks beside you. It changes the way you see the world. The way you laugh. The way you plan. The way you breathe.

People assume you’re “over it.” But how do you get over losing the one who made you?

You don’t. You learn to live with the quiet heartbreak. And you become someone new.

#griefjourney#lhealingthroughwords#grievingdaughter#womensstories#sacredloss

There are no words for how soul-rattling it is to lose your mother

I’m an only daughter. And now, I’m the only woman left in my family.

My mother was more than a parent—she was my anchor. She was the invisible thread that tethered us all together. The only other female in a sea of masculine energy. My person. My grounding point.

And now she’s gone.

I still have a husband. A child. A beautiful family of my own. But something primal and irreplaceable has broken.

The bond between mother and daughter… It’s a thread that runs through blood and bone and breath. When it’s cut, you don’t just lose someone you love. You lose the mirror. The witness. The one who knows.

This grief is isolating.
 It’s not just sadness. It’s a disorientation. I feel like I’m floating without an anchor to where I came from.

And what I keep thinking is this:

When a daughter loses her mother, something in her fundamentally shifts.
 It changes her.

I’m not saying it’s harder than for a son. I’m saying it’s different.

There’s a specific ache when you lose the woman who made you… and when there are no sisters, no matriarch to lean into— she becomes the end of a line.

Or maybe, the beginning of something else.

There’s a silence that echoes in places no one can reach.

For the daughters who’ve lost their mothers:
 I see you. I feel you. We may be unanchored… but we are not alone.

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Shock.

A physical, visceral shock. As if my nervous system can’t compute what’s happened. As if it’s still reaching for her, still listening for the sound of her breath in the background of my life. But all it finds is silence.

We were energetically intertwined in ways I didn’t fully understand until the cord was cut. Complicated, yes. Messy, sometimes. But deeply bonded. Our energies had wrapped around each other for so long that it became hard to tell where she ended and I began. I absorbed her emotions before I knew what mine felt like.

For full article follow link in bio to my Substack.

#relfectionsofareflector

This isn’t the tidy kind of grief people post about. It’s not just tears and memories.

It’s messy and layered and strange.

It’s the kind of grief that arrives at the end of a chapter—one shaped by a full seven-year cycle that began with becoming a mother and ended with losing mine.

It’s not just the loss of her physical presence—it’s the disorientation of not knowing who I am without the emotional role I’ve always played.

It’s the unraveling of beliefs I didn’t even realise I held. It’s feeling both lighter and heavier in the same breath.

It’s crying for the version of me who has lost the mother that she loved, while also feeling the quiet joy of space opening up inside me.

Space that was never available while I was still carrying her pain.

Read full article on Substack, link in bio

Healing is very rarely linear, there is no quick fix, no one right method or answer. Your healing evolves as you do, constantly shifting and adapting.

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5 things that have helped me immensely with my anxiety as a mother.

1. Learning mine and my childs Human Design
2. Daily somatic exercises, really tuning into my body and release what I no longer need to grasp onto
3. Starting to delve into GNM, through the amazing @mg.freedomcoach
4. Personal development with these rockstars @joelrafidi and @_yerasimos
5. Surrounding myself with like minded women and having each others back.

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Like nature you to hold innate ancient wisdom inside of you.

Can you hear it though through of all the noise?

Can you feel it in your body through all the conditioning and distraction?

It can be so hard to hear and trust the innate wisdom we hold inside when there is so much noise, when we are conditioned to outsource our power, when we believe the ‘external’ are the experts. When we are overwhelmed and over stimulated, grasping at anything to sooth the discomfort.

You can reclaim your natural state, the person you came here to be. You can connect to your body and hear the whispers of the ancient wisdom inside of you….

But you need to make the choice…..

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Unfortunately for our species our cages are often cultural and of our own making - Robert Scaer

In my opinion this is a blessing because it means we can break out of our cages if it is what we truely want.

We make the decision and then its one foot after the other, one step at a time.

It can be scary, painful, lonely but it’s liberating, beautiful, joyful and totally worth it.

#breakoutofyourcage

Send this to a mum who you admire, who is trusting her innate wisdom, going against the grain even when society is telling her not to.

You’ve got this!!!! You’re a rockstar!!!!!

If you want to make a wrong decision then ask everyone else their opinions.

You are your own expert.

Reconnect with your Intuition, your innate wisdom…we are all born with it but with all the noise we can’t hear its whispers anymore.

#reflectionsofareflector#fillyourcup#connectback#innatewisdim#beyourownexpert❤️❤️❤️

Yin yoga is just one of the tools I use in my life and it helps that it is literally one of the most relaxing practice for me.

In TCM anger is associated with stagnancy or blockages in the Liver or Gallbladder meridians.

Here’s a little sequence I love to do whenever I feel anger has been coming up a lot for me.

My practice looks a lot different than it did pre-child and most of the time Im doing these poses before sleep and more often than not im doing them in bed.

Do one or all 5, just connect in with your physical body and gauge what you need and what feels good.

We are focusing on the inner groin, inner thighs and sides of the body.

- Wide legged childs pose: take the knees as wide as you can to really get into the groin area.

- Reclined butterfly: place pillows under the knees if you experience pain in the knees during this pose.

- Shoelace: you can either stay sitting upright or fold forward over the knees.

- Dragonfly: I love doing this up against the wall if you find your meeting resistance when trying to fold forward.

- Bananasana: LOVE!!!! Good luck trying not to fall asleep in this pose

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Daily inspiration #reflectionsofareflector

That moment you realise all those safety nets are actually your ceiling and they need to go for you to rise.

Becoming more yourself is a journey and can sometimes be scary as fuck but what an amazing journey it is!!!!

Especially when you have the right people in your corner.

#reflectionsofareflector#sayinggoodbyetothesafetynets

I don’t like hard and fast rules.

I don’t believe one diet, one modality, one supplement is going to fit everyone.

And this is why I was so deeply drawn to Human Design, it is simply a tool.

A tool for me to explore and experiment with how my energy flows with as little resistance as possible.

We all have free will.

I can make big decisions in the moment, I have free will.

I can choose to eat the way I have been conditioned to eat, I have free will.

I can study online, by myself with no human interaction, I have free will.

BUT…..

I will face push back and resistance.

And being the mother of a 5yo I can tell you I want to create as much flow and ease in my life as possible.

Human Design is not a set of rules you have to follow, it is a tool to create more ease and resilience.

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So often I feel what others feel, not because I have experienced their circumstances but because when I am with them I am reflecting them.

I feel their happiness, pain, anxiety, sadness, joy and grounding.

This is why my Human Design readings are so individual and personal because I am you.

#humandesign#reflectorlife#humandesignreadings#coaching

I have shape shifted in the pursuit of connection. Forever altering, adjusting and minimising under the illusion that this ‘one’ particular connection was the answer to an unsettled soul.

Ultimately the search for connection though has to lead back to self first.

We are so disconnected from our own innate selves that connection with others will eventually become frayed without that foundational connection to ourselves.

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A beautiful 90min Yin Yoga Class to prepare you for the magical Super Blue Moon.

Details:

Sunday 27th August
4pm - 5:30pm
Location: The Centre of Healing, 1/68 Station St Somerville
Investment: $40
Bookings essential via link in bio

What to expect!

A deeply nourishing and supportive experience of physical and emotional release to guide you into the Super Moon a few days following the class.

Expect to feel deeply relaxed and restored with hands on massage to help you surrender to the experience of release.

#fullmoonyin#yinclass#yinbliss#deeprelease#morningtonpeninsulayoga#selfcare#community#yogastoned#nervoussystemhealing#surrender

I have always to been in awe of people that can create and capture beauty that invokes deep emotion and connection.

So grateful that I get to wake up to this piece of beauty.

#reflections#capturedbeauty#grateful

You are not bound by your genetics, you can choose different, you can choose better, you can choose peace. #todaysmusing

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